Apologize for not being active I admit it's nothing but laziness. Today I wanted to write about your agenda.
One thing I like to do is watch the Real Game No Theory guys on YouTube breakdown of the Pineapple Show. I’ll admit I can’t stand the Pineapple Show, really, but it’s illuminating how many men go on that show without ever having a real agenda.
I work in corporate America. One of the worst things in corporate America is the number of meetings that should have just been a comprehensive e-mail. It's often led by someone who has a specific grievance who wants everybody to concentrate on their problems. I wanted to talk about the upcoming project and how the HR department can’t be responsible for all the internal complaints. Those meetings are often led by someone who doesn't know how to solve their problem and brings in a collection of people who will solve the problem for them.
But the worst kinds of meetings are those without a specific agenda. Team building meetings or ice breaker meetings or meetings where people just get to talk about what's going on with their week. I don’t have that kinda time.
What a lot of men do with women especially at the onset is they don't have a direct agenda. They want to go up to that woman and talk to her and see if she responds favorably. That’s it. They don't have a place to go for a date, or an experience to try out and they don't have a plan to have sex and they don't have anything to offer the woman.
But an agenda at its core is something that you want to show other people and have them subscribe to your agenda. I don't like Donald Trump. But there is no question in my mind that he has an agenda that is at the core of him that he would like other people to follow. In fact, if you do not follow or cooperate with his agenda, Donald screams at you and then belittles you in the media and then fires you.
Your agenda might just be to meet beautiful women to have sex. In which case you're trying to show your relaxed side of yourself and your confident side of self and a playful side of yourself to get her to relax. When she relaxes and signs on, now we go to a more personal, comfortable setting. Then after that, back to the crib to engage in sexual activity.
It could be as simple as meeting in the parking lot behind my apartment to talk before we have sex. Grabbing some herbal tea at the shop a block down from the bar. But it’s agenda.
It’s not a plan. A plan is a big overall thing. An agenda stems from inside of the man and is executed via a series of plans, a series of moves.
I might plan an aggressive chess game. But my agenda is to play aggressive chess. If I’m winning, I’ll be more aggressive. If I’m losing, I might martial my resources, lie in wait, and then play aggressive. If I lose, it’s okay. My plan failed, but my agenda didn’t.
But when you hear the guys on The Pineapple Show, they're talking about how many kids she has and her favorite musicians and her goals for her life. None of that coincides with their agenda. None of that coincides with the agenda they have for when they interact with beautiful women and what they want to do to appreciate that beautiful woman and also explore their own sexual selves.
They don’t have an aggressive agenda. They don’t have a smooth, romantic, playful agenda. They don’t have anything inside, and they don’t plan anything outside.
“Before you even open your mouth, you have to know what the shot is.” That’s from Glengarry Glen Ross. That's a scene where Al Pacino is schooling a young newbie who screwed up one of his sales. The reason the sale got screwed up is because the newbie didn't understand what the agenda was. A lot of times I hear men say “I don't have a plan for her or I don't know where I want it to go as a relationship.” That might be true of a relationship, but you at very least need to know what’s inside of you in relation to beautiful women.
Your agenda is a great sexual experience, exploring different bodies and kinks, have some dope conversation and growing as a man interacting with the world. It’s deeper than that. It’s deeply personal.
When your questions meander and you look around and you put your hands in your pockets and you mumble and stumble, it becomes very clear you haven't understood your agenda and you haven't worked it out with yourself.
That's a lot like me going to a gym to study under a shooting coach. Say I'm very excited and I have a new basketball and I have tennis shoes and I can't wait to learn. But when I get there, the coach asks me what do I wanna work on or what do I feel like doing today.
Motherfucker, what?
I'm willing to submit to my coach’s agenda because I believe it will lead me to a successful place. I'm excited about it and I want to learn more about that agenda to learn more about me.
We assume that a woman doesn't want to learn her body sexually. Mostly because the really conservative Christian weirdos hate sex and they hate any woman who likes sex. So they want her to never learn her body and to learn more about her sexuality until they get with them and their inexperienced and raggedy selves.
We assume that a woman isn't looking to learn more about sex and her body and experience sex under the guidance of the right man.
The right man has an agenda and has worked out that agenda and worked out all the kinks and places and moves and plans and knows how he wants to express himself.
So now he's just looking for people to go along with his agenda. She has to get alot out of it and she's going to be cautious at first and she's going to need a very confident and practiced and nuanced and at times patient coach.
But you gotta have an agenda first. And only one man can give that to you.
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