It's okay to have moods. Not okay to be moody, but shit, man, you’re a human being. And it's all right to be irritable at times. I’ll be honest, I like an irritate nigga sometimes.
The reason I'll tell you that is I think a man's nature is conflict and competition and overcoming. That shit ain’t all smiles and laughs. That shit ain’t easy. Typically, when I'm frustrated or having a bad day I worried about something or I'm not able to do something that I want to do.
I got mad yesterday hanging my girl door. I knew what to, but I fixed it and then more problems emerged. I said, “Why am I even doing this stupid shit?” But then I watched more videos and failed another six times. Then I fixed it. Then I opened and closed the door a bunch of times and I felt good about myself. And now I know more.
See, the Youtubers would hate for me to get emotional. But the point was that the emotions didn’t stop me and I didn’t live in them. I had work to do and I did it.
I think the lesson in pushing forward and being angry is to not put yourself in positions where you're following a lot of other people. In positions where you are following someone's lead and you're being very vague about what you want. It's also important to be very aggressive about what you want rather than being aggressive about not getting what you want or feeling like a victim.
The anger and the rage has to be put into something that ultimately benefits you. If I'm whining about women or how there's not enough black people in my city that's not anything productive for me. I have to put the anger into making more money to take trips or moving out of the city or learning how to be better as a man and talking at women.
But a lot of us sit on our rage day after day. And it leads to internal hatred which leads to depression and oftentimes leads to either violence or sometimes suicide. There's a big problem with men killing themselves. They've got all this rage and they've got all this frustration, but it's not channeled and directed into anything that will benefit them. Their rage isn't directed at failing for the 100th time their rage is directed at women that make them feel scared to talk to them.
Your rage and your pain and your frustration are real. It is not fucking easy to be a man and women never show us enough love for that. But I need to be put that rage and pain into the act of doing and the act of gaining. It can't be in the act of staying the same. It can't be in the act of sitting still and being pissed off at the world around you.
I read today that somebody was in a college class ahead JJ Redick, who was just elected to be an NBA coach. That person said it felt like they didn't do anything with their lives. That cannot be further from the truth but that's something that people love to impress on the middle class and poor and normal people. They love to show you famous people and muscular people who are dating and fucking and having reality shows to make you feel like your life is missing something.
What we do is we sit around angry and depressed that our life is missing something. And we ignore the fact that we can do something about it and that's where our rate should go.
If I quit and I give up and I'm weak and I'm wimpy, I have every right to be able to channel my emotions and hurt.
But a man needs to address those emotions and address my accountability in them and then use those rage that frustration to channel into moving the rock forward. Into defeating the Roman army. Into talking to that woman at work and being frustrated when I didn't do what I said, and I didn't get what I wanted.
There has to be a stronger sense of frustration when you don’t do nothing but lie in pain.
The frustration should come from sitting around and being lazy or not doing anything to improve. The frustration should come from listening to other men who sit in the chat room and talk about how hard the world is. The frustration should come from an uncooperative woman who basically followed my lead. Then I put the frustration into fixing the problem man owning the problem and getting rid of the problem and getting to a place where that problem is no longer a problem.
I saw something today on Threads. A woman was shouting out her husband, how wonderful he was. The husband was relationship vibes because he was always crying and tearing up at every last turn. For commercials or for sad movies or for a nice story about puppies on the news. And the man was a little ashamed, but the woman told him that's why she loves him. And called him Pook. White woman.
That's a man who uses his emotions to just cry and make his face wet. Then he feels like a bitch but he gets credit for having those emotions and expressing them openly. So what’s he learned. What’s he recording and reporting to his brain. That being a crying emotional man is better than handling shit.
He doesn't get credit for not solving the problem. He doesn't get credit for being sad that his family is not more ahead in life. He's crying at fucking commercials. So, there are good times to get angry and it's okay to be angry. It really is okay to be angry and discontented and frustrated. Because I think that's where genius comes from, and intelligence comes from and motivation comes from. That’s the thing that helps us win wars.
It's the thing that helps us go up and confront the fear of talking to that woman and going after what we want. It’s the thing that makes a Malcolm X and a Henry Ford. I think it's the thing that pushes us into the bedroom even though we're unsure of our sex game. It’s the thing that drives us nuts at night and keeps us up staring at the ceiling, knowing that could be more in life.
But if all I’m prepared to do is copy women and use my emotions to talk to people on the Internet and bitch about life and give myself excuses, I'm doing to copying what they do. And it's great, it’s really great for women to do that because they are the more emotive creature and that's important for them as females to feel everything at that powerful level.
But we don't need two females in a relationship. We don’t two fucking girls who have no idea how to handle their emotions or where to put them and channel them. We don’t need arguments for eight hours.
I don't want to teach my sons and my daughters that a man cries and sits on a couch and cries at everything then gets a hug from his wife. You know who used to do that? Mom.
I'm done needing a Mom. I’m grown now.
And that weak shit, that's considered masculinity. And look, I don't wanna be around a man who pretends he doesn't have emotions. That ain’t any better. Pretending to be a robot and school. Too cool for school don’t graduate.
I gotta handle. I’m not gonna be liked on Tik Tok. I ain’t get no credit for handling my emotions and channeling them. Your girlfriend/wife not gonna like it and she's not gonna love. But you and your girl and your family will experience the difference in your leadership and your accomplishments. I'm sorry, but as a man, you are graded on what you accomplish with a woman and what you accomplish at your job and what you accomplish with your dreams and what you accomplish with your gifts. What the fuck are you accomplishing in your mind. Emotions need intelligence, but eventually intelligence gotta make something in the world.
If you don't like that, find a couch and cry and hit a pillow and rest your head on your woman's shoulders and be blissful in emotional Mommy love. Or get real the story, feel some of that anger and start hitting back.
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